Fri(end)ships
There is always an end to something right ? Either it’s your friendship, your relationship with someone and even the haagen dasz you just ate will come to end (finish). Random terok en. Lol.
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I’ve been through a lott in relationship and i have lost a lott of friends in my life. i believe you guys have experienced in it too right ? The thing is when I wanna start a new friendship with someone, i always reconsider it again and again after all those things that I had been through with many kinds of people, i don’t know. I became afraid and have trust issues with “people”. See how a toxic relationship can affect you.
I can see the trend of it. first, you will get to become hyperexcited to know everything about your friends and up until you remember every little things about them. that’s the most enjoyable moment where there are a lott of fun and laughter, spend time together with him, eat with him and always berkepit with him but alas, we tend to forget that it wont last long. In this period, we tend to be kind of “fake” and wanted to look perfect infront of that person so that he or she can see the good and bright side of you and sometimes that person don’t really like us in the first place but tends to play along with us. They thought they can bare with it but no, when you don’t even like someone in the first place, you cannot become fake about it. Trust your first instict because the reason you left that person is because you ignore your first instinct that you feel about that person.
One moment when you have some kind of disagreement with that person, one side will lower their ego and fight to get back in the relationship because he still wanted to protect the “sacred” friendship. We try to mend this friendship by being honest with each other and tell the other party of what we like and dislike about him and vice versa, with this, if the process succeeds you will have a stronger friendship insya-Allah.
But if everytime you guys quarrel and not in the “happy” mode, this is the the time when the truth will be revealed. For me, what hit me the most during this moment is when that person tell me something that he hate the most about me. The thing is you can just let me NOT enter your life in the first place if you don’t like me, my personality, don’t like me because that’s the way I am. You can just choose to NOT invite me to be in your inner circle in the first place. You are hoping that one day you can accept me as who I really am just out of nowhere ? Hell no. Life doesn’t works like that. Grow up kiddo.
When you find yourself in this situation where only YOU fight for this shit all over again for months i repeat, MONTHS. Please realise that you are in unhealthy a.k.a toxic relationship/friendship. Take a break. Take a deep breath and reflect back, what is your niat in the first place when you become friends with them. Maybe Allah wants to teach you something out of it. But for me, i’ve had enough of it. I can’t stand of being in this drama. I decided to cut off and kick that person out of my circle. I don’t want to have toxic people in my beautiful circle of life. acewahh overr. and i hope that it is the best decision i made for myself and for both of us. Ameen.
“You lost someone who don’t even care about you but that person lost a person whom care the most about him/her.”
If you are reading this :
“Dear you, thank you. thank you. thank you. Thank you for everything, for all those memories we had ever had, for all the knowledges you shared with me, for all those stories you tell, for teaching me something in my life. I learnt a lott from you. I thought our friendship will last long but i was wrong. I am very sorry for everything. It’s all my fault, not yours. I decided to cut off our friendship when we are already good. I am sorry. I hope you are doing fine with your life, I am happy with my life now, Thank you 😊”
I think that is all for my post, do comment on what you thought about friendship and maybe some of your experiences in dealing with your relationships 😉
Fake it till you make it. xoxo.
Ps; I hope you don’t mind if i keep on leaving quite a long comment hehe.
ReplyDeleteLife is kind of like a party. You invited a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, and some show up late. But in the end after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time they aren’t even the ones who made the mess, these people are your real friends. They are the ones who matter most. We know someone’s special to us when we don’t talk for a while because things get busy but when we eventually do it’s like we didn’t miss a beat. We talk like there was no gap in between and we laugh until our stomachs hurt. It’s a rare and special connection and personally I think if you ever find someone like in our life, we will never let them go. I’ve through a lot in friendships. To me, growing up means realising a lot of your friends aren’t really our friends. Sometimes we don’t lose friends. We just learn who our real ones are. I’m not a perfect friend, I can make mistake anytime and I have flaws too. But still, I love those people who stay with me after knowing the real personality behind me. Some people come to our life either give positive or negative impact. We just have to be thankful that our paths crossed and somehow they made us happy and taught us lessons in life even if it was just for a short while. Life change and so do people. They come and go. Some come back, some don’t, but that’s okay. Friendship cause heartbreak too. It’s hard to find people who stays real to your face as well as behind your back. Just because one person leaves doesn’t mean we should forget about everyone else who’s still standing by your side. That feeling when we meet people whom we feel comfortable with, we don’t to pretend to be anyone or anything like we’ve know them your whole life. Some people stay with us because their needs. Cutting these people out of our life doesn’t mean we hate them, it simple means we respect ourselves and get rid of negativity. We are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with so let go of those who keep weighing us down.
~I’ll always think randomly about all the amazing memories that we can create with a person close to us. Because once upon a time we were inseparable. I’ve always look back at the pictures that we took, reading the conversations we had on social media and think about how much fun we used to have. i respect your decision. But to be honest I miss those times we used to be stay up telling secrets or have millions inside jokes but now we walk past each other as if we never met. I’ll always thank all those people who were there with me. All i have left is the memories I’ll never forget.